Day 33: Being With Paradox

When we see our world in "either/or" terms we narrow our vision considerably. It can be easy to make assumptions based upon a small amount of information. Consider politics these days. If you are a Democrat, it has become natural to assume all Republicans are "bad." Republicans do the same in regard to Democrats. This kind of thinking makes for simple sorting, but not a very deep way of being.

The truth is, we are a world of "both/and;" a world of paradox.

Taking the political example one step further...although I may not agree with someone regarding health care, I might find we share a passion for empowering teenagers to be the best they can. But finding that out would require being with the paradox...slowing down the sorting system.

The sorting system causes unnecessary pain in relationships. Inevitably, human beings make mistakes. After we have categorized a person, or an institution as "good," when they do something to hurt or disappoint us, we become disillusioned. If we harbor unrealistic expectations for others to be "all good all the time," it's a long fall from the pedestal. The messiness of relationship requires missteps and forgiveness...abiding in a love that is greater than our human frailties...and it calls us to be with the paradox.

Richard Rohr reminds us that Christ turned the world on its head with teachings like, "He causes the sun to rise on the evil and the good, and sends rain on the righteous and unrighteous." Mt 5:45. Rohr and other teachers compel us to move beyond the "either/or" way of thinking and instead move to the "both/and" way of being.

HOW??

Not easy...maybe we can acknowledge when we are sorting, and slow the process. Being with paradox is not an exercise of the brain, but the heart...the brain is thinking based, the heart-sensation based.

Sitting in meditation or contemplative prayer each day helps us to develop this sensation-based way of being. It allows us to expand the capacity for our inner observer and develop the patience to wait...to respond rather than react.

Take at least five minutes, preferably twenty, and sit in silence...notice your breathing, feel the air moving through your nostrils, down to your chest, back up and out again. Simply stay with your breathing...if you are distracted by thoughts, just come back to your breathing...

Also, this week make an extra effort to open your horizons and dialogue with or reach out to someone who you previously would have sorted out of your life. Enjoy being with the paradox. Namaste